After I only mentioned the sexual aspects of a relationship in the previous part of this chapter, I now want to come to the part that actually is the main part in a relation or at least should be. A relation between two people, that goes beyond a friendship and includes emotional and sexual aspects, offers a variety of possibilities for development of the souls. This can become a very interesting experimental field, as it needs to be experienced how to live together and how to harmonize the different views and opinions or work with them in a way that proceeding on the Path of Light together is made possible. In some cases it is possible that a soul meets a soul partner, a soul that is a partner also in a cosmic sense. This is also called a “twin soul”, although a soul can have more than one such partner, as a soul can divide itself into multiple parts to have simultaneous experiences. However, when two parts of the same soul group meet, it provides a special relationship, often with very strong ties – sometimes very harmonious, sometimes however it can be parts of the soul which are counter forces, allowing both parts to experiment with problem solving and realizing that they complement each other.
In all relations between two people there is generally the possibility that two souls either complement each other or are partially very similar. In both ways which usually are to some extent both present in any relationship, there can be harmony. To allow harmony in a relationship both partners need to learn to live together, to negotiate, to share or delegate tasks, and peacefully find solutions to problems. These tasks are not always easy to accomplish, and for many people a partial or complete termination of the relationship can occur because they feel unable to cope with the tasks of a partnership. A partial termination of a relationship may be one partner moving out, or giving up or turning over decisions to just one partner, or a slow retreat out of the relationship where both partners continue to live together but their relationship crumbles to less than a loose friendship where the “partners” either avoid contact or each lives their own life. It should however be considered that in some relationships one partner is quicker spiritually developing than the other. This can cause both partners to be hindered in their development. Under such circumstances letting go of the relationship can be a letting go in the karmic sense and therefore such a separation could bring karmic relief that is needed for spiritual progress. There is no general rule for what should be done in a difficult partnership – learning from dealing with the conflict, or separation. Generally, the spiritual importance of the relationship should be considered; in most cases the experience of working out the problems is the most sensible solution for the spiritual development, but in a few cases a separation can be useful from a spiritual view, when only one of the two partners is progressing significantly spiritually and the other partner is causing a slow down or is hindering the development, and when no severe consequences for any children are likely.